Did you know that the things you tell yourself on a regular basis are likely to become your reality? It has been said all that we are is the result of what we have thought. For instance, if you’re in the habit of telling yourself you’re no good at something it’s very likely you won’t be, because you’ve trained yourself to be that way by repeatedly giving yourself a negative message. Our beliefs create the behaviour to create the reality in which these beliefs come true.
Imagine that you are a house, and written on the walls of your house are the ‘scripts’ of all your beliefs. These beliefs have been gathered over the years from your own experience or from other people, such as your family, peers and society. Every single moment of the day gets ‘filtered’ through these scripts which then shape your every experience.
Some of these inner scripts have outgrown their usefulness; others are downright unhelpful; some aren’t even yours! I suggest you give them all an airing and throw out what doesn’t work for you. Write down on a piece of paper all the negative things you say to yourself, and put next to them what beliefs they may stem from. Go through each one, and ask yourself is it appropriate to have this belief? Is it true? Is it helpful? Where did it come from? Is it time to let it go?
Powerful affirmations are positive statements which are consciously chosen by you to replace these negative inner scripts with something more useful, creative and open.
Words drive how we feel and behave. We use words all the time, consciously and unconsciously, as a way to make sense of the world. Don’t underestimate their power to shape your present, future and past. By using affirmations, you are working with the power of association, which is the body’s own natural way of learning (via its neural pathways and cellular memory). The phrase “It’s just all too much” is likely to trigger associated feelings of anxiety, helplessness and anger, whereas the affirmation “I can take things one step at a time” may trigger calm and optimistic feelings and put you in touch with your inner resources, making the task ahead more do-able.
Fundamentally, negative ‘self-talk’ is a habit – a pattern of thinking we’ve established for ourselves over time. Using affirmations is a powerful way to help break old, unhelpful thought and behaviour patterns and establish new, more desirable and positive ones. In a nutshell, the negative statements we use in self-talk narrow our options, close doors and somehow make us smaller, whereas affirmations increase our options for positive outcome, open doors and allow us to expand to our optimum potential.
And remember, the more you use the affirmations, the more powerful their effect will be as you grow the neural pathways and collect the cellular memory to take you there again. Here are some tips to help you:
• Say your affirmation in the present tense
• Let go of your rational mind
• Allow the whole of you to bathe in the words
• If any resistances come in the form of unhelpful comments from your rational mind: notice them and let them go; breathe into any sensations or feelings with an attitude of kindness and respect.
Here are a few affirmations for you to try out. Create some up of your own – it’s better to keep it simple and use words that fit for you
• I am enough
• I value and love myself
• I can go at my own pace
• Everything is unfolding as it should
• I trust in the process
• I go with the flow
• I heal and grow every day
• I am on my path
• All will be well
Affirmations can be incorporated into your meditations or used on their own. First thing in the morning and last thing at night can be a simple but profound way of preparing for the day ahead or a sound night’s sleep.
» Source » By Linda Hall