Even though you have always had heart, you have hidden your heart for earth eons because it seemed others would not or could not return the love you had to give.
Over the eons, you hardened your heart and the corresponding responses. Many of you became the consummate caretaker. But you did so to ensure someone would interact with you instead of a natural process.
You were not cold-hearted, instead you traded love for love – much as merchants trade for financial gain.
Perhaps you are upset for you believe you give with a complete and loving heart. And so you did when you were of 3D.
ThreeD love almost always has a purpose from “If I do this, God will love me” to “If I do this, my community or family will see what a wonderful person I am.” If that love was not reciprocated (rewarded), you left or harmed the individual or institution emotionally, physically, or spiritually with thoughts of “You’re not up to my love standards.”
ThreeD love was bartered just as is true for any earth merchandise.
The love you are evolving into is broader and more profound. Because you are rewarding yourself with self-love, outer-rewards are no longer required.
ThreeD love was about filling your empty love cup. A cup that was empty because you did not love yourself.
Once you allow yourself to fully love yourself, the antics of others will shift within you from “They hurt my feelings” or “Broke my heart” to “They must function like that for a reason.” Your choices then become encourage those actions, shift your interactions, or ignore the supposed slight and move on.
You no longer need to placate anyone. Instead, ask yourself if those interactions feed or reduce your self-love.
The new earth is not about interaction quantity but interaction quality
You might question how self-love applies to children, relatives, or life-long friends. Do you ignore them, drop them, confront them, or create something new? That decision is your new being freedom. Should no longer applies.
Many of you question that freedom with thoughts of employers, relatives, friends, and others you gathered to fulfill your 3D needs.
Many of you respond that you can release friends, but you need the job, or you have to take care of family members. If such is so, it behooves you to readdress your needs and, therefore, your interactions with them.
Are you using the 3D love/friendship/employee applications you have for eons? Or do you believe you are important enough to declare freedom from those people and things that hold you captive?
ThreeD love was a barter or financial exchange. You felt your heart was filled – not from the inside out, but the outside in. As you fill your heart with self-love, that 3D exchange no longer exits. You do not feel the need or have the energy to appease others because so much is happening within you. So it is you can no longer act the supplicant nor function as the almighty king/queen.
New you does not have time or energy to make the lives of others better just so they will return the favor. As you fill with self-love, you will find yourself exploring relationships you once believed were lifelong, only to discover those relationships are no longer that interesting.
Do you wish to be with those people for something other than what they once gave you, or are you ready to flit to another interaction?
Perhaps you believe you need certain beings in your life for if you let them go, there will be no one to replace them. We, of the Universes, can only respond that your 3D emotional safety net no longer exists. Not because it was bad or wrong, but because you are a new being in a new age.
The most essential part of your new being is self-love. A love that does not require you to negotiate with anyone. Nor does it require you to retain a certain number of people or items in your world to feel complete.
Outer-directed indicates you cannot rule yourself without the aid of others. Inner-directed is the opposite.
Perhaps you are concerned you will be isolated.
Loving yourself sometimes is lonely – especially at the beginning. Not because of the final rewards, but because you realize how little you had in common with many you held close to your heart. Even though they never filled your heart, what they bartered with you allowed you to feel as if your heart MIGHT be whole.
You have required a whole heart since your inception light years ago – just as you now need oxygen to live on the earth. So be it. Amen.
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