For Those Having A Hard Time

holding hands love eraoflightdotcomIt seems the recent Pluto T-square unleashed some dramatic forces, and some people are having a hard time. As we all have a hard time once in a while, some of what I’ll offer you today may be useful down the road, especially given the intensity of the compression of our times. Even if you’re not having a hard time, I’m sure you know someone else who is unhappy due to current challenges.

This originated in an answer to an email about 5 years ago. This person was having a very hard time with other people’s judgments and their own bad habits, and were feeling overwhelmed by other people’s coercion’s and destructive behaviors. This person expressed they felt “schizo,” “crazy,” and other unhelpful self-assessments, and that they had lost their way.

As an aside, I believe a lot of the problem in the collective atmosphere is a combination of factors. Besides the Pluto T-square and the Rhombus Diamond giving us all profound evolutionary challenges, we also are dealing with many Eclipses which have taken away more than we imagine. And now we’ve returned to a time of the forming Uranus biseptile Pluto, bringing the Grand Irrationality back into our common experience. The Cosmic Awakener is in a “fork in the road of destiny” turning point relative to The Cosmic Purifier, guaranteeing we’re all going through transformations in our lives which like Uranus and Pluto, are out of our personal control, except for how we choose to respond to the challenge to become spiritual adults.

I am reminded of the ancient wisdom that it doesn’t matter what people say or think about us, and what we think about ourselves isn’t the whole picture either. Every moment we’re alive, we’re either operating from our heart center and living our integrity or we aren’t. Other people have opinions, but don’t have to live our life, make our choices, and live with the consequences of our actions and inactions. If our duty to our Higher Self requires the strictest integrity in our actions, feelings, and thoughts, then we must be as open hearted and open minded as possible while charting our own course through the fogs and confusions of the mass consciousness.

If we’re living our integrity, then there’s really no problem regardless of what others say. If we are not, then all we need to do is get back to living our integrity and it still doesn’t matter what others say. We thank those who have helped us and move on into our power and clarity to do as we must. We are in charge of our lives and our actions and our relationships, and each of us is our own absolute law-giver, “the dispenser of glory or gloom” to ourselves by what we say “yes” to, and what we say “no” to.

Remember too that all humans go through hormonal and chemical changes as a function of having a physical body. Sometimes we’re chemically imbalanced, and usually we are in no position to determine what is out of balance. That’s when it’s very important to be cautious in what you do, think, feel, and consume.

I have noted over the years that many begin calling themselves some very unhelpful things when they’re in pain and confusion. Calling ourselves “schizo,” “crazy,” and other such descriptors cannot help us in any way. If we need help, then we need to find help. At these times, our ego is usually obstructive, since it wants what it wants regardless of whatever others call us or we call ourselves.

If our imbalance and confusion comes from chemical/genetic/heredity issues, then there is one set of things to do. If it’s simply a matter of lifestyle and associations, then it’s another set of things to do. Once we become objective about the source of our “hard time,” then we can set about doing whatever we must to “not have a hard time.” One of the afflictions of the mind which creates suffering is the mind suffering over its own suffering.

When we are in pain and confusion, if we can’t make it better, it’s equally important not to make it worse! We certainly don’t need to aggravate our suffering by doing things that can’t alleviate that suffering. That often means we have to avoid those who encourage self-destructive or hedonistic behavior, or put us down, and instead get on a meditative, yogic, or other form of therapeutic discipline.

While getting back to sanity can be arduous, it’s also the only way to live. And all human problems have solutions. We may not like them, but they will solve our problems. We only have to be willing to give them an honest try.

Ultimately, any feeling that we’ve “lost our way” or are isolated or defensive are spurs for us to remember that we are the ones who steer our ship of personality wherever we choose. This is the doorway where we can begin consciously identifying with the way of Spirit rather than the way of matter. Again, our inner integrity means more than any external thing, and we do not have to stay confused or anything else, since these are temporary states of perception that have no permanence.

We ARE an Eternal Consciousness having human experiences. We are all learning how to navigate the 4D reality and were not raised by saints or sages. We all go through difficulty until we learn what we need to learn. And it seems that if we don’t take care of important things in one round, we will have to take care of them in another.

When we realize all forms pass away, both pleasurable and painful, then we can learn a healthy detachment. I have also found it helpful to regard my suffering as happening to my personality while my Soul just loves me, everyone else, and everything through it all.

When we are most disoriented, it’s important for us to get clear about what is truly real, conditionally real, apparently real, and inherently unreal. Then we won’t fall into illusions. And remembering that the mind is inherently pessimistic, we can learn how to generate positivity on our own behalf. The ability to generate positivity as we choose, any time we choose, is the antidote to the mind suffering over its own suffering. As we generate good will, many troubles fall away like dead leaves in Autumn.

When things are most “crazy” and make the “least sense,” we are offered true opportunities to leave behind perceptual chains and traps, stop identifying with that which seems “crazy” or “doesn’t make sense,” and open to seeing what IS from a greater holistic perception. It’s all part of our human journey of de-identifying with the world of ego, and choosing to view it with the understanding of our Higher Self. Use your imagination to find ways to release the pressure and move in a different direction than the one in which you’re having a “hard time.”

If we need help, then we need help. Those who seek shall find what they need to understand and move forward in their power. Just make sure it’s not ego perpetuating an illusion. If we’re open to our heart’s wisdom, we can move in any direction we want which leads us to our Higher Self. We can do whatever we need to do to heal into love without needing anyone else’s permission.

A milestone is passed when we overcome the fears which ego persistently attaches to itself. Regardless of where fear originated, our task is to destroy it completely and for all time by becoming the greater Loving Wise Intelligence of our Higher Self. While it can be a struggle from time to time, your Inner Spiritual Warrior can never be defeated. Only ego can be defeated. And when it is, then Spirit triumphs! What’s not to like?


By Robert Wilkinson – An internationally-known astrologer, author, public speaker, metaphysician, and futurist, with over 25 years experience as a counselor and educator. He has presented hundreds of public talks on all aspects of Astrology, the Eastern Wisdom tradition, the Western Wisdom tradition and promoted many mass gatherings and cultural events. Some of his specific areas of interest and expertise include personality profiles, degree patterns, integrative astrology, various aspect harmonics, among others.