Questioner: How do you know if you love yourself? How do you know that you truly love yourself and it is not your ego talking?
The Council: Well, what do you do in life for others? That is a good yardstick of measurement. What is your attitude as you are doing them, these things for others? Understanding there are times when you must be a care giver or a provider that you get disgusted, you think that you are not appreciated. Well, when you begin to feel as though you are not appreciated, then you better take a second look at your feelings inside. Why should you be appreciated for doing good for someone else? That is your privilege, your honor. You should do it with humbleness. You should be grateful. Every time you are responsible for an action that is spiritually beneficial to another individual, that in itself should be all that you need. There are times in doing and giving, you do get tired, you do get disgusted. This is understandable, but if this hangs on too long and begins to cause you to question whether you should continue giving or doing, then you must reexamine yourself because you have not reached the point where you truly love yourself. Again, periods of time where one gets disgusted, even feels like throwing their hands up and walking away, these are all natural emotions and can be expected in a variety of situations. But the person who really loves themselves in a godly way continues through these periods of darkness or trepidation or whatever you choose to call it, and comes out on the other side still carrying the torch of achievement. They have not cowered in the corner as a coward would do.